 |
- Among the set of traits humanity seems to find to be the least useful and the most obtrusive, emotions often rank at the top. So it’s no wonder that the amount of content on how to get rid of it increasingly outweighs the amount of content on how to get more in touch with it. What we forget is that to be emotional is also the human. And if one keeps only the rational, one might wake up one day to realize that one is no different from a cold and calculating robot. Rationally you’re better off, but the truth couldn’t be further apart from it. Instead of having two kinds of experiences each on their dimension, you’re now confined to one. The one without any sense of meaning. Because to be emotional is to be able to find meaning and purpose in anything, even the things the rational finds to be irrational. And there is power in that.
- To be emotional is to give in first, and think about second. Society conditions us into thinking this process leads to nothing but disaster. This is, of course, forgetting that love is a purely emotional endeavor. And to add any rationality to the beginning of the process is to ruin the dish. To sway away from the recipe. Our instinctive decision to choose a lifelong partner within nothing but a second is a purely gut-based process. Oddly enough, the same process upon which many build the rest of their lives. The truth is more often than not our most meaningful decisions are based not on cold calculating logic, but emotions. Based on gut feelings I mean. And the rest is taken with the utmost rationality, math, logic, and statistics. And to pretend that we’re all about the opposite way of living. Logic first and emotions second I mean.
- Emotions are a natural part of what we mean when we talk about humanity. To give into them is not weakness but to give in to humanity. To give in to what you happen to be at your core. To give in to what everyone else happens to be at their core. By spending more time around people who happen to be more in touch with their emotions, you learn to allow yourself to give in to this natural side without fear. You finally learn that everything has a place, including your ability to act and be emotional.
- If you can’t spend time around people who happen to be in touch with their emotions, it might be of use to read more works of fiction, as apart from the entertainment value, works of fiction expose the reader not only to a broad range of emotions they might have not been aware they had, but also aid in the labeling of said emotions. And this is a great way to develop oneself emotionally.
- Experience more. Different experiences give rise to different emotions, and it’s by integrating said experiences and emotions into one’s life without giving in to the urge to be rational that emotional intelligence is developed.
It is all about knowledge and experience 😉
Leave a comment below