Everyone of us enters debates with preconceived notions, baggage, and a truckload of biases. It’s up to you to manage both your demons and to help whoever needs help with theirs, so that a productive conversation can become possible. Without that, the debate will degrade into nothing but a clash of dark sides in which…
Read moreA few thoughts on boredom
In a world where instant gratification is increasingly the norm, those of us who manage to free themselves from the chains of boredom will be among the few with both eyes open in a land of blinds. The ability to sustain boredom is a skill developed by the systematic deprivation of pleasure. The more you…
Read moreHow to have difficult conversations
1. The ability to say what needs to be said regardless of how we or someone else might feel, is a skill one hones over time by the intentional abandonment of comfort. The more often you put off difficult tasks, the weaker willed you become, and the next time the task will be harder, aversion…
Read moreHow to become a good problem solver
To problem solve is to build a castle out of thin air. Only the castle is made of thought material more often than not acquired, not innate. To build a solution you need to first accumulate all the knowledge that comes along with it. These will be your building blocks, and the price will be…
Read moreHow to stop caring about what other people think
When you work on yourself and become the master/mistress of your universe, you eventually come to realize that your opinion is all that matters. You eventually realize that some people will like you, some people will hate and what’s left will be neutral. The fact that someone doesn’t like you, might have nothing to do…
Read moreHow to keep the motivation spark always alive
Motivation is the kind of spark whose chemistry varies from person to person. You might find that like most people, rewards are what keep you up at night. Slaving away even as a free man/woman, with all the rights and benefits that come along with it. You slave away because you need to. Not because…
Read moreHow to develop a strong will
Strength of will is one of the few good things bound to be lost with increased comfort. Strength of will is the kind of thing only developed by the voluntary or involuntary facing of difficulties and hardships. Each moment of trial is an opportunity to turn present and perhaps even past anxiety for future certainty…
Read moreHow to develop a strong work ethic
The first and most important skill one can and needs to have, is the ability to do what needs to be done as opposed to what is pleasurable. At this age, when the complaints of the one now take more and more precedence over the many, the call for duty couldn’t ring louder. A strong…
Read moreHow to go through difficult times
One way to face obstacles, while incurring as few emotional scars as possible, is to accept that hardships come for all, and to be mentally prepared for one’s turn. The way is to never fall for the illusion of permanence and safety only good times bring… to maybe even attempt to embrace the bitter and…
Read moreHow to find inner peace
The road to peace is enlightened by the darkness that emerges from the demons that suck the light out of your days. The very demons whose existence you negate. The very same that don’t let you sleep at night…and if you do…I bet you don’t feel rested. Do you?The doors to peace only open when…
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