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Why mindset is not overrated

In this post, we’ll have a discussion on why mindset is not overrated.

The self-help industry has been around for a while, and during this long run, a set of principles/ideas were so cemented into the global mind that they became a part what self-help is known to be. The ideas I’m talking about are: being positive, believing in yourself and to dream big. These three ideas can, in turn, be boiled down to one, which is that self-help is an act of managing one’s mindset for the purposes of having a better life. By better, I mean anything you consider at the moment to be better. It’s subjective and heavily dependent on who you are and what drives you, but achieving it, whatever “it” is, boils down to mindset. If you pay attention to any self-help book/course out there, chances are high that it can be boiled down into this simple idea/principle. They are all in one way or another about changing the way you think about what’s it’s possible in order to help you accomplish/achieve more in life.

Why Mindset is not overrated

The problem with the self-help industry is the same problem that any kind of group faces. The problem that for outsiders, the group is viewed as nothing more than the average of its members. If on average the members of a group behave in a certain way, the outsider perceives the group as being the way of the average. The problem with averages is that they are easily swayed by outliers. We think they are representative of the truth most of the time, but if some of the time the results are extreme, what we see is the extreme, even if most of the time, the results are… well…average looking. The self-help industry is a victim of the many who just like the fanatic, blindly believe and make claims about something to the point that they start looking for lack of a better word…well… crazy.

What I’m talking about is the positivity problem. The problem of assuming that one can get anything one wants if only one thinks positively about the desired goal/result, positively enough. And on the advent that one doesn’t get what one wishes, then the impulse is to assume that the few moments of negativity and doubt he/she couldn’t control were the culprit and not the fact that they didn’t work hard enough. When the positive thinker finally comes to the conclusion that its way was the wrong way, the impulse then becomes to take the complete opposite approach. I’m talking about cynicism, which is still the wrong way, and the reason why the positive becomes the cynic is not so much because the positive became enlightened, but because of a flaw in reasoning. Meaning that just because the extreme of an approach did not work, doesn’t mean that a milder implementation of it won’t. The best example of this truth is medicine. Take only the effective dosage. Take more than that and chances are that you’ll give birth to new problems on your attempt to put some to bed.

Give enough time to the same cycle of hopeful romantics turned cynics, and soon enough anyone who becomes a hopeful romantic is seen/perceived as naïve/inexperienced. The mere belief of any remotely uplifting future becomes then a sign of immaturity, not because the ones who believe in that really came to realize how immature it was, but because they failed when they took that kind of path as their path and on the first sign of massive failure due to the over-application of a good thing, they incorrectly assumed that being hopeful, is a recipe for an even more disastrous disastrous world.

Jim Rohn and the idea of new principles or new truths/new fundamentals

I always seek to learn something new from someone new, and one of the first few lessons I learned from the motivational speaker Jim Rohn was that there was/is no such a thing as new truths/fundamentals. In essence, the teaching states that Truths and fundamentals will remain as true and fundamental as they’ve always been now, and in the future, regardless of social norms or governing governments. What is really true today will remain tomorrow. If not, then you’ll at least get a glimpse at how delusional you can be. Sometimes you really think you know, but not really you don’t.

The idea that you have to believe to achieve is one of these truths but not due to the reasons you might think. Again, sometimes you really think you know, but not really you don’t.

A part of being enlightened is to give in to the idea that you have no idea of what you’re talking about. It’s about knowing you’re ignorant even when you think you’re enlightened, and instead of unsuccessfully wishing your way into wisdom, to search your way into wisdom.  To REALLY accept you know nothing, not to look humble, but to REALLY be humble even when no one is looking.

When one first buys into the core ideas of the self-help movement one find itself enlightened. Oddly enough the same happens when one fails and falls into cynicism disguised in realism. They are both extremes, and as Aristotle suggested once: the truth is in the golden mean. Extremes rarely tell us the truth and yet we can’t help but fall for extreme ideologies, especially when disguised as “just rationalist views”… free of any agenda on the surface and still possessors of invisible goals.

Why is mindset not overrated? Because it’s not overrated.

I guess the theme of this post could just as well be “Why is mindset not underrated” and the answer would be just the same: Because it’s not underrated.

The one who so deeply believes in the power of the universe will exacerbate the importance of mindset, while the complete skeptic can’t help it by to downplay its value.

The truth is that if we overrate it we fall for the temptation of removing any action behind our intentions, while if we underrate it we fall for the temptation of removing any intention behind our actions.

The idea that the reason why one can fall prey to the belief or idea that mindset is just what readers of the secret talk about when they want to convince you that the universe is what will give you what you want is incorrect.

The thought process is wrong but the action somehow comes correct, in the same way, that one can be a fake doctor and recommend the right medicine even though the rationality behind the recommendation is incorrect.

Mindset is important because the brain can only work at its full potential when it has a good one. A person who doesn’t believe it can solve a problem or accomplish a goal will not have the resolve to plow through when the moment comes that insights fail to come or results fail to materialize. This is the risk you put yourself under when you remove any belief or motivation from your goal accomplishment attempts. You find yourself divorced of the kind of emotional energy you can only get when you have faith in your vision, and when you do fail, you incorrectly assume that it wasn’t meant to be, or you weren’t good enough. Just as there is such a thing as fanatically believing on the power of belief, there is also such a thing as fanatically disbelieving on it. The disease is the same but it is manifested in different sceneries, like how different bodies can respond differently to the same disease. For the extremist, the disease is the extremism of its beliefs, and the body is the belief. The result is the same: death caused by an over-application of a good thing.

Mindset is vital

Another way to look at this question is through the perspective of one who has read the book The one thing by Gary Keller. This point of view is one in which the thinker chooses to think about only those things that matter enough such that when taken care of will reduce the amount of work to accomplish what one has in mind. In other words, think about what’s vital and ignore the rest.

Thinking along these lines, it becomes easy to see why subjects like health and mindset are important. They are vital to the accomplishment of anything in life. Without health, there is no room in anyone’s head to think about making money or success. Without the right mindset, there is no drive to accomplish anything; since it can be hard for anyone to do hard things if one doesn’t believe on its own ability to overcome obstacles or solve problems.

Just because something is preached by almost everyone you get in contact with doesn’t make the advice less valuable, in the same way, that just because everybody talks about how important it is to eat healthy and exercise doesn’t mean that healthy eating and exercising are not powerful pieces of advice. The same goes for mindset. You’ll find a tone of people out there preaching about it, some who know what they are talking about, and some who just heard it from someone else and are on the quest to looking smart/knowledgeable by re-cooking advice they’ve heard somewhere else from someone else.

Summary

The point in this post is to make you aware that mindset is not so much about what you are, but a tool to get you what you want. It’s by no means the silver bullet some people make us think it is, and neither is it a delusion of any kind, like some people, make us think it is. A mindset is just a tool. To say it is or it isn’t overrated is to make a similar judgment but about a tool of any kind. Overuse it and soon the tool becomes a weapon. Underuse it and soon you’ll be made aware of how much “money” you have been leaving on the table.

How To Inspire Loyalty

In this post, you’ll find a few ideas on how to inspire loyalty.

We live in a time in which being loyal to someone or some cause can easily be perceived as weak. More and more people think more and more about themselves. Everybody wants to make it, and the way most choose to do it is by taking a selfish approach. The few who don’t are the ones who in the long run are able to attract true crowds to their circle. Not of the kind that you see on the social media that pretend to cheer when you post a video on a recent achievement, or pretends to cry when you post a sad image, but of the kind that allows you to make changes in the real world even on the face of a powerful force/entity. So, it follows that the one who is able to inspire true loyalty is the one who can have more influence even when lacking resources.

How To Inspire Loyalty

The problem most of us have is that of us have is that of treating loyalty like love, or the desire for a great relationship: we expect it to fall from the sky. To find love or to have a great relationship one has to be proactive. One has to go after it; to take action. There are some cases in which through luck alone people manage to get what they want, but to bet on that is a losing strategy since luck has this tendency to show up when you don’t really need it, and to conveniently leave you when your life depends on it.

The same can be thought about loyalty. You have to take a more deliberate approach to get it, or chances are that you’ll spend the rest of your life wishing for it. This post is just a discussion on a few ways you can go about getting it.

Give first and ask for it second

The thing about loyalty just like everything else in life, is that it is all about reciprocity. It’s one of those things we all want/wish from others, but that we’re only willing to give when we get it first. So, we all find ourselves facing that chicken and egg kind of problem in which the correct and winning approach is the counter-intuitive approach of being the first to give. It’s the strategy of taking the risk that the other side of the table will betray our confidence, even taking into consideration our own act of loyalty.

The secret here is to be wise on who to demonstrate your first act of loyalty to. There is no point in trying to inspire loyalty on a known cheater or liar, since even if you do manage to get any genuine feelings of loyalty from that kind of person; you’ll live in uncertainty, which defeats the whole purpose of cultivating loyalty because at its core loyalty is all about security and trust.

So, the point here is to choose the kind of people who you can trust to exert your first act of loyalty. The reason why being the first is a good strategy is that as humans we are wired to pay back not only those who hurt us but also those who help us. This is what the reciprocity bias is all about.

Start by being a little loyal

The movies we watch tell us always a similar story when we hit on the subject of loyalty. They tell us the story that just like in the romantic world, only grand gestures are what matter. If we want to prove to someone how loyal we are to them we have to do so in a grandiose manner. And anything less than spectacular is useless. The thing is that the human mind is more complex than that. It is not enough to make a major display of loyalty and expect that display to cement your relationship into an unbreakable bond. As counter-intuitive as it might sound, it can be far more productive to make smaller displays of loyalty to the ones we are loyal to overtime, giving the relationship the time to grow old and deeper like the taste of a brand of wine let age at its own time and pace.

The alternative to that is just tiring and not sustainable. Doing it once in a while is not enough since regardless of the gesture, humans tend to need constant reassurance that their allies of yesterday remain so, and that they didn’t, for whatever reason convert into covert enemies, now plotting their future destruction. So instead of trying to light up fireworks everyday, you should focus on making sure you get the equivalent to a candle lit. This although not as impressive, is much more reliable, and its impressiveness comes from time.

Keep a clean record

The idea of keeping a good reputation/image has lost its influence over the years. Today we live in a time in which any kind of attention regardless of how negative is welcomed for those who are happy to settle for anything when the target goal becomes infeasible.

The problem with that is that it takes some options off the table, and among those options is the default sense of pre-loyalty strangers feel compelled to give to those who cultivate a clean record. What I mean here is the kind of person who is known to have an honest word that can be trusted always. The cleaner the image the lesser the volume of words is required to inspire trust and loyalty in others. Here your record speaks for you, in the same way, that an athlete’s trophy room tells the visitor of the power of the man/woman who owns them.

With the kind of loyalty built from a clean reputation comes word of mouth. The kind of word of mouth a business would pay to have. With it also comes influence, since as the number of people who know you for your track record grows, also does the number and reach of people who would like to develop a relationship with you. This is why dishonesty doesn’t pay in the long run. It’s not an ethical but a numbers thing. Meaning that the greater the number of people you’re dishonest to the greater the odds that your reputation becomes more publicly known.

Be useful

The last thing to talk about is the idea of being useful. We all want people to like and do good things for us. We want it for free, being the way we are without giving the other side of the table anything in return. It’s that new tendency to force people to like us even when we are awful, and when they don’t paint them as evil. We can do that as much as we want but it won’t make us any more likely to build our circle of loyalty.

The effective approach is to make people have something to gain by being loyal to you. It’s true that once in a while you’ll find the kind of person who for whatever reason will give it to you unconditionally, but again to bet on that is a losing strategy. Being useful might be harder than just wishing people are loyal to you for free, but it definitely is a more sure approach to getting loyalty from people. When you can add to the lives of others instead of just taking from, people tend to value your relationship with them more. Eventually, this value is so high that they become more willing to do anything to keep it, and at the top of the most powerful things people do when they want to keep a relationship they hold dear is to show to the other party that they are loyal to them. You don’t ask for or force it to happen, but it comes as a side effect of your ability to enhance other people’s lives.

You can enhance your usefulness by enhancing your ability to solve problems. The better you are at it the better you are at giving good advice, which is one of these scarce things the world is so desperately in need of. As your network grows you can be even more useful by connecting disparate parts of the network that would never meet. Now you’re the middle man or say the bridge that made it all possible, and the person they have a lot to thank for. Still on the same tone is the idea of favors. The more favors you make the more useful you are. This is especially true if you don’t ask for payback or give any hint that you’ll be needing any soon.

Summary

As discussed here loyalty is one of these things you have to earn. Waiting for it won’t take you anywhere, and the ideas above are just a starting point on your way to more loyal relationships.

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How To Improve Patience

On this post, you’ll find a few tips on how to improve patience.

We live in a world of fast, where the one who gets results the quickest is the one who goes home with the crown. This idea is so ingrained in our global culture that it can just as easily be a business strategy. Where instead of coming up with groundbreaking products/services the entrepreneur settles for a slightly better improvement of the status quo. And often this improvement is in speed. Faster gadgets, faster services, and with all of that it’s no wonder that the word boredom is gaining more and more ground in the collective mind of our beloved planet. We are less and less patient, and the bad thing about this tendency is that some things will remain as they’ve always been. Meaning that unlike technology, which seems to introduce new products/services that work or allow us to do things faster and faster, things like true connection and mastery remain as they’ve always been regardless of the technology of the moment. They always took and will still take time to accomplish. They always did require patience and time, and they will remain so in the future. It is the idea that even these can be hacked for speed the reason why more and more people, as the Investor Tai Lopez once said: “believe they can be great at many things”.

There are very few Swiss knives of skills in history. The reason for this is that even for that who calls him/herself a master, there is still always more to learn since for every discipline there is always some unsolved mystery if you look hard enough. Some new and not yet discovered way of doing things better. And the way to find the way is through the practice of patience.

How To Improve Patience

Expect things to take longer

At the root of any moment of lack of patience is the expectation that things would take any less time to complete. With that assumption, we design our schedules around the event and when it does take longer we get the shakes that only a drug addict can tell us about. When we say we want to be more patient, what we mean is that we want to be calm when the inconveniences of life come our way. We want to avoid that feeling of anger that comes with it, and as a result, also prevent ourselves from losing mental balance. But setting ourselves up to expect things to take as long as their apparent time is like being overweight and expecting a party we’re going to will have only healthy dishes. It certainly is possible that that will be the case, but chances are that it will not. So instead we assume the worst possible scenario and prepare ourselves mentally and physically for it.

When we expect things to take longer than they are supposed to we often notice that they actually take less than that, and instead of the burst of lack of patience we are washed off by that sense of delight we feel when we find out that something we wanted to buy is actually cheaper than the money we saved for.

Remember that we’re not talking about just expecting an event you’re going to will take longer than expected, but to apply the same principle to your goals and dreams. In fact, this is one of the main reasons why people give up on their goals and dreams. They have an expectation about how long and how much it would take to accomplish them, and when it takes/costs longer/more, they give up. The point is that it will always take/cost longer. Remember that there is no such thing as average time. What there is is what you’d consider an extreme, and picking those for which you consider extremes is probably the best estimative you can ever make. If your goal takes on average 2 years to accomplish, expect 4, and you’ll notice that on the advent that it takes 3, you won’t be as easily phased because you knew it all along it would take longer than that. Just like a pessimist who lives life expecting the worse to happen is better mentally prepared for it on the advent that the worse does happen, you can keep going even after it has taken longer than average to accomplish what you want to accomplish because you were expecting it to take longer than average in the first place.

Practice any kind of stillness

At the core of any kind of stillness, practice be that meditation or simply choosing to only speak when one has something important to say is patience. Again the world we live in is faster and faster, and this increased speed is forced upon us. As a consequence, we also need things to be faster and faster. From the time it takes us to solve mundane problems, to life-changing decisions such as the people we take in as our romantic partners. We want it all to happen in an instant. In stillness, we force the mind to slow down, which can be quite uncomfortable for you if you’re all about getting everything now at least, but preferably yesterday.

So, another way to improve patience is to train yourself to be comfortable being still, because the struggle one has when forcing stillness upon its mind, is the same kind of struggle one goes through in moments of impatience when trying to force patience upon itself. Actually, if you think about it, another way to think about the patience problem is to think of it as a stillness problem. Just like in science when we can frame physical phenomena in mathematical or chemical terms, we can frame our attempts in being patience as attempts to keep the mind still. In essence being patient is keeping the mind still/unresponsive to some specific stimuli. So from this it follows that if you can keep your mind still/unresponsive to everything/all stimuli, which is almost what meditation is about, you can for free keep your mind still/unresponsive to some specific thing of your choice. In other words, you can be patient.

Beware of your own chemistry

The human body is a complex system of interconnected systems. One seemingly inconsequential change in a single and seemingly inconsequential variable in one system can cause catastrophic changes/effects on the whole big picture system. We talk a lot about the butterfly effect and often wonder how it might be affecting the universe at large, like how a butterfly swinging its swings here and now might affect the trajectory of some not yet found alien planet on the other edge of the universe in such a way that it will make it extinct and as a consequence never discovered by us; But we forget that this same effect might  and is at play closer to home. In the temples, we call our bodies.

You can easily notice this by paying attention to how chemical substances affect the various parts of the system you call the human body, from the electrical activity between the neurons of your brain to the whole psychological aspect of it like when you eat an amazing dish or have a night of drinking. The point is to find ways to hack your chemistry since it can be and it is a very influential part of your life. You can do this in many many ways, from the food you eat each day, to the large array of supplements known for their positive effects on the human brain in terms of mood, motivation, focus, and memory.

Get used to discomfort

Getting used to the thoughts that arise when you’re uncomfortable is another very important thing you have to learn on your way to improving patience. The reason for this is as we talked about above, one sub-system of the main system you call you can have an enormous impact on everything, and one of the most powerful ones is your thoughts and feelings. As you probably know, the things you think about can be so powerful to change your physiology and chemistry. You think positive and in brain scans what you see is brain activity matching the positive thinking mode. Do that for long enough and saliva tests designed to measure your level of cortisol(a stress hormone) can’t help but to reflect this increased sense of relaxation towards life that being positive represents, and on and on.

The point is that being positive is not just a way of life you adhere when you listen to a motivational speaker telling you about how the way you think about things can affect the “gifts” the universe will choose to give you. Thinking positive is also about managing your body. From the psychological, you affect and influence the chemical and the electrochemical, and from each, you affect the rest even those you never intended to in the first place.

Getting used to discomfort is one of these challenges that in order to be overcome you need to change the way you think. You need to manage your thoughts and attitude at the moment of struggle, and only then you can get past the obstacle. The thing about getting used to discomfort and beating it successfully is that when you succeed at it, chances are that being more patient will be much easier if not even a walk in the park. The reason for this is that the same mental muscles required to overcome discomfort in a given situation are at large a part of the same mental muscles required to deal with impatience, since just like on the stillness example, patience can also be reduced to our ability to deal with the discomfort that arises when the mind doesn’t want to wait and yearns for impulsivity.

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How To Be A Better Problem Solver

In this post, you’ll find a few ideas on how to be a better problem solver.

The ability to solve problems is one of the most sought after skills any employer or start-up founder looks for. At the end of the day getting to tangible results is what has the final say on how much one can achieve in life. We often hear about the idea that what matters most is being able to interact with people and make connections, or even to be able to persuade the indifferent and hostile into friends. While this certainly has its own share of truth, it doesn’t tell the whole story.

One can be able to make connections in lightning speed, but connections are more than just the likability factor which many self-help/persuasion books try to convince us it is. Powerful connections are as much about what the other side of the table has to offer you, as you have to offer to them. It is all about a continuous exchange of value between two sides. Without that, you’re nothing more than a charming taker, and eventually, in life and business we shut down takers regardless of how charming they might be. The ability to solve problems is perhaps the most valuable card you can have on your value delivery arsenal.

How to be a better problem solver

Problem-solving in general is a challenging activity, and often to succeed at it the most effective way to go about it is to take more specific to the problem approaches. There are, however,  some things one can do regardless of the nature of the problem that can greatly increase the odds that once one decides to go about solving the problem, that the efforts will come back fruitful. Below are a few of them.


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Understand the problem first

One thing we often do when trying to solve a brand new problem is to throw ourselves at it without taking the time to completely understand it first. I believe the cause of this is the old and still existing belief that the genius is that to whom solutions to difficult problems come easily, and from this unacknowledged and insidious little belief, combined with the need to look and feel at least smart, comes the almost fear of making/demonstrating effort in trying to understand the problem. It makes us feel dumb and mentally weak to take that time to take the problem in. In a computer, this would be the equivalent to trying to run a game or an application by skipping the loading phase.

So, we find ourselves trying to solve a problem we don’t fully understand, and as a result, we don’t even know what we’re looking for. Now we can’t recognize the solution even when obvious, in the same way, that it’s near to impossible to find something in a lit room, when we don’t even know what that “something” is in the first place.

The crazy thing about this first step in any problem-solving activity is that often it culminates into the solution of the problem in the first place. Meaning that sometimes when you know what you’re looking for looks like, or what is, finding it can be done immediately. This is in part at the essence of the reading and interpretation strategy of reading the questions first and looking for the answers in the text second is based on.

Let it marinate

Another common problem-solving misconception is that for bright people the solutions for all problems appear immediately after they become/became aware of the problem. The truth is that the “Aha!” moment when it came it did so after days, weeks, months, or even years of pondering. In other words, the “geniuses” worked out the problem by letting it sit there in the mind for longer than a little while. Albert Einstein, for example, is known to have said that his genius came not necessarily from brilliance, but from the fact that he was willing to stay with a problem for longer than the average physicist. Something similar was said once by the physicist Michio Kaku when he said that the job of the physicist is mostly done sitting down for hours on end working on one problem. According to him, the better you were at it, the better physicist you were.

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So, after loading the problem into the mind the next step is to let it marinate. It often is the case that the solution comes when you’re not even thinking about it. It’s as if the brain has a separate unit inside itself responsible for working out problems, even when we’re not consciously doing so. The point here is to do it for long enough to trigger the process.

Ask someone

Sometimes we there is no point in reinventing the wheel. Meaning that with the large knowledge base the world has built over the centuries, often it is the case that for any given problem, there is someone somewhere who wrote something about it. It is still true even when the solution is not readily available in popular sources of knowledge/content/information you know of. I became aware of this last fact a while ago when I heard from a documentary that in the field of mathematics, for example, the solution for an unsolved problem is sometimes found by applying some old and forgotten technique in a new way. The same can be observed in the area of health and fitness in which once in a while someone, somewhere brings some old health practice to the light, making it mainstream, and subject to new scientific studies.

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The point is that as you look for the answer from within it might be useful to look outside also, and once in a while you might be delightfully aware that someone already solved the problem you’re trying to solve.

Enhance your mind

On any problem-solving effort, the mind is that which is behind it all. So far we’ve only taken an outsiders approach to problem-solving, which is definitely ok and will get a good portion of problems you ever need to solve taken care of. But the next question then becomes: what if none of that works? Meaning what if It is all up to me, the person solving the problem to come up with the solution? For this case, there are two important skills that have to be worked on well before you stumble into a difficult problem and they are as follows:

1.Increase your endurance

As we discussed already, difficult problems tend to take some time to be solved. They require us to look at them from different angles, methodologies, and even moods. As crazy as it might sound, your mood at the moment can have an impact on how likely you are to find an answer. Curiosity for example, makes us more open to whatever the mind brings to us, while the need to prove how smart we are can make it more difficult as time passes and we haven’t found the solution, and the thoughts about how smart we really not bubble up so high that they are all our minds are about.

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Knowing a lot is important to be a good problem solver, but even more important than that is the ability to keep knocking on new doors, even after a painfully gigantic stream of failed attempts. The reason for this is not that “the universe” will notice your efforts and reward you with the solution, but that the longer you stay after a problem, the greater the odds that you’ll learn what you need to learn to solve it. The greater the odds that you’ll stumble into a solution, and the greater the odds that you’ll have an insight. It’s not a belief thing, it’s a numbers thing.

2.Increase the number of things you know about

Knowing about a lot of things is one of these good things that is often looked down upon. Sadly the ones who know nothing are often the ones with the loudest voices and stronger presence, and often this presence is confused with wisdom. Just because a person can state their opinion persuasively doesn’t make them right, and this persuasiveness is often what makes us believe in the most ridiculous of theories.  One of them being that knowing a lot of things won’t get you anywhere. Of course this kind of view comes from people who don’t know much about anything, and in a world in which those who know don’t speak, emotional sayings naked of any background solid basis can not only take root but grow to flower and become huge trees of delusion. Tress that future generation will eventually sit under, and use for support throughout their lives.

 

That’s why it’s important to be guarded when in the presence of a person with a strong personality or who is skilfully persuasive. The reason for this is that they, because of the way they are, tend to be more believable, even when what they say has no grounds in rationality or truth.

How do you know the words coming out of a person are valid or not? Attack the point, not the way the point is being made. Attack it with the same kind of mental clarity you’d attack the point if it were written on paper by some unknown writer. Here it’s important to always ask why they believe in what they believe in, and as you’ll notice, most of the time these people have no clear reason for why they believe in what they believe, other than the fact the beliefs are theirs and not someone else’s. In other words, they are just biased to believe in what they believe in because they are them and the beliefs are theirs. On the advent that they do have a reason behind their beliefs, listen to it, and fact check it for validity. Look for conclusions coming from flawed logic or incorrect assumptions. Here the study of the basic laws of logic can come in handy since they can be of great help in finding mistakes in reasoning. If you can’t find a flaw in the reasoning behind the belief, you can give yourself the right to adopt the belief, but do it with a grain of salt. Do it with an open eye. Do it with one foot in the door ready to leave. Ready to abandon the belief. Because it is still possible that just because you couldn’t find a reason for not believing in a belief, that doesn’t mean that the reason doesn’t exist.

So, this is what knowing more is all about. Not to show off, and make the people around you hate the idea of knowing more and you along with it. But to help you distinguish the truth from a lie when you see a potential fact. To just like cook increase the number of ways you can connect the smaller pieces of knowledge into some new never yet seen solution. To be a better problem solver.

 

 

 

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